Friday, June 19, 2009

Be The String

There is a verse in Judges that says, "As a string snaps when it comes close to a flame, so the secret of his strength was not discovered."

There is a great story of a Father who took his young son out to fly a kite. The sky was clear. The breeze was just right for kite flying so to the boy's delight the kite soared up and up until the entire ball of string had run out. As the youngster held on tightly to the stick to which the string was tied, he could feel the kite dance and tug against it. He said, "I want the kite to go higher."
"Can't go higher," said the father. "There is no more string."
"The string is holding the kite back," the boy replied. "Let's cut it."
Whereupon the father cut the string and then the kite came tumbling down to the ground. The father said, "You see son, the kite is free to fly because the string had a hold on it. It is the line that holds things together."

Dads, many times you are the string, the line that holds things together in your family. There is a verse in Proverbs that says, "Life and death are wrapped up in the power of the tongue," and perhaps no person holds as much potential for speaking words that impact and influence a child as does the father. By a father's words, a soul can be refreshed or shocked, soothed or singed. Whether he is a man of few words or a great conversationalist, you may recall hearing some things from your father who may still be living or not.

Whether you heard good words from your earthly father or not, your Heavenly Father gives good words to all of us - words that are life building. Are any words more important and powerful than "I love you" and "I am proud of you." Dads, you are big in that regard. Those words never get old. If I heard "I love you" a thousand times from my dad, I needed it a thousand and one times. It was the last thing my dad said to me before he died.

Dads, parents, never stop telling your children that you love them and are proud of them. Why do negative words come so easily and positive ones so hard? God the Father said in the book of Jeremiah "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness."

Dads, I encourage you. I exhort you. I implore you. I don't care how old your kids may be. They may be grown up but be the dad that speaks words of life to your children (or grandchildren). It is never too late to start, believe me. Children, listen to me. If your dads can't or won't do it, then by the grace and power of God, ask Him to let you be the instrument of those words of life and health. Maybe, just maybe, you may be the one through whom God brings positive and powerful change into you family. Amen? Amen!!

"Dad, I love you and miss you. I look forward to seeing you in heaven. Thank you for being such a loving and caring dad and for being such a great example to myself, my wife and my children and grandchildren. Your legacy of love will continue."

Happy Father's Day everyone!


  1. You are the best dad ever...ever...ever. I couldn't have had a better dad. I'm so glad you've always told me how special I am and how much you love me. I'm so glad you're still doing it. I could write a book...really...about how we connect through humor :) about how you've loved me unconditionally...about how you've always believed in me...but it's a blog. I'll tell you later. I love you dad. Happy Fathers Day to the best dad in the world. Really the best.

  2. This is such a beautiful post. You are correct on so many levels...especially in saying that a child is never too old to hear words of affirmation from their parents. You are such a great example of that. If our children grow up to love and respect James and I half as much as your kids do you, we will have done very well.
    Happy Father's Day (from us who camp on such holidays!)

  3. My dad was a over the road trucker so I didn't see much of him
    and he passed away when I was ten. Both my grandfathers were gone
    before I was born. So I didn't have a chance to hear I love you son or grandson. But I do know how important it is to let my son and daughter
    and grandkids know I love them and are very proud of them. Sometimes
    just a hug is all they need. I do know my Heavenly Father loves me and I try everyday to make him proud of me. So Dad's Happy Fathers Day, Lets start out Sunday and everyday with I love you and a hug!

  4. I know you just read the card from a few years ago, but that really says it all. There are very few constants in life, but being able to say that your dad is one of them is such a blessing. You are the glue Dad, just as Grandma was in your family. Doug and I really appreciate and respect that about you. Thanks for always being there, I mean ALWAYS! Never a question, never a doubt. I love you! Happy Father's Day!

  5. Wow.
    You don't just say it, you live it. You've been, and are an incredible example of being a real dad, real husband to your wife, and real believer.
    I'll never forget that Father's Day 5 years ago when we first cam to Living Hope, and it's better now than it's ever been.
    You're a great leader - at church, yes but more importantly at home. I admire that of you.

  6. This message needs to be infused into the American culture once again, more than any other. The importance of fathers has been so maligned in the public mind. I think its a huge reason why this country is so far off plumb.